| Is Sexual Addiction For Real? Is It Really An Addiction? |
If a very unfortunate person ( man or woman ) can not stop acting out sexually, romantically or co dependently under their own willpower no matter how hard they try or how many different times they resolve to themselves or others to finally quit then sex, love, romance addiction or co-sex addiction is certainly real for them. These types of personal & family problems always leave a trail of destruction behind them. If this is the case with you we suggest that you make an appointment with a counselor, therapist or treatment center that specifically specializes in treating compulsive sexual behavior more commonly referred to or called sexual addiction, love addiction, romance addiction or co-sex addiction & ask for a professional evaluation & assessment. The reason we are in recovery for sex, love, romance addiction or co-sex addiction is because we have accepted the fact that we are real addicts or codependents of addicts for whatever reasons & could not keep our compulsive addictive sexual or relationship behavior under control without the help of mental health professionals & other recovering addicts & co-sex addicts. Whether or not sex, love or romance addiction is real in the eyes or minds of others who are less informed or do not personally experience our difficulties is irrelevant to us as we are more concerned with trying to save or salvage what we have left of our lives, We know all to well that sex, love, romance addiction or co-sex addiction are very serious life damaging problems. Not that we are bragging but we naturally experience a higher level of consciousness concerning these matters. We can assure you we do not participate in sexual addiction recovery meetings just for the hell of it or simply because we are stupid as some uninformed so called professional people would have you believe. Birds of the same feather always flock together which means we also naturally attract & know others who also suffer with the same type of problems & many of us have been involved in compulsive addictive romantic dependency relationships with sex, love, romance addicts or co-sex addicts in the past which for many of us is an under-statement having participated over & over again many times. Rest assured we are not as misdirected, misinformed or as dumb as many nay sayers would have you believe. We choose to call our problems sex, love or romance addiction or co-sex addiction to give them the justice they really deserve. Many of these nay sayers who call themselves ( sexologists ) could very well have these same types of personal or family problems themselves & speaking out against sex, love, romance addiction or co-sex addiction could be their favorite way of trying to hide or cover that fact up ( defense mechanisms ).
That is the exact type of impaired thinking we used to experience when other people would confront us concerning our rather obvious & dysfunctional compulsive addictive sexual or romantic relationship behaviors.
We have no idea what causes sex, love or romance addiction or some people to become addicted in the first place. That fact is secondary to us in so much as achieving total abstinence is our primary recovery goal. We do this to avoid the painful consequences involved with our compulsive addictive sexual acting out behaviors that have adversely affected our lives & often times the lives of innocent others many of whom loved & cared about us. In recovery terms we believe that who you really are speaks much louder than what you say. Our family members, friends, loved ones, church families, recovery program friends & co-workers have a right to expect us to be who we say we are or hold ourselves out to be & not someone who is actually leading a secret double life behind their backs ( acting out sexually in our addictions ). We desire to be brutally honest with them & emotionally available to them on a consistent basis which is something we could never do when we were lost in our addiction. We have no desire to take on any more personal quilt or shame which is the very fuel that fires & feeds our addiction & makes us feel bad about ourselves irregardless of how successful we may be in other areas of our lives. All addiction in a sense is about not being able to say no or not having that boundary & that is exactly what our seemingly hopeless situation was until we decided to reach out for help & finally get ourselves into counseling, therapy & an organized program of recovery. We leave the exhaustive research & figuring it all out up to duly qualified professionals like Dr. Patrick Carnes & John Bradshaw who have the necessary credentials & have personally experienced similar problems by their own admission. It takes one to know one. What other people say or believe about sexual addiction is not of much interest or concern to us as the fact is no other human beings on earth know more about it than they do as witnessed by their excellent track record of helping thousands of people recover from sexual addiction over a period of years including well known & respected politicians & famous celebrities. Patrick Carnes & John Bradshaw have in fact forgotten more about sexual addiction than their sexologist skeptics will ever know about it. Please take our word on that as sexual addiction has the power to destroy or take human lives.
who suffer from compulsive sexual behavior or what you call Hyper-Sexuality we would suggest that you throughly investigate the positive results of the research work that Dr. Patrick Carnes & other researchers have performed over the years ( SASH ).
dysfunctional families through no fault of their own are being bombarded with porn via the inter-net. |
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Sex, love, romance addiction & co-sex addiction have the power to destroy & take human lives.
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Take What You Like & Leave The Rest.
| Dr. Patrick Carnes |
