Flybenji’s
Definition of Addiction!An addict is a person that can not stop acting out in their own personal bottom line compulsive addictive behaviors whatever that is under their own willpower no matter how hard they try or how many different times they resolve to stop or quit.
That is the true test for addicts & addiction & no blood test or further diagnosis is necessary.
If it looks like a duck, walks like a duck & talks like a duck.
It is a duck.
What else does anyone really need to know about addiction?
An addict is an addict & addicts always do what they are supposed to do.
“Act out in their addictions with their drug or drugs of choice!”
Take illegal drugs away from them they will use alcohol. Take alcohol away they will use Scope Mouth Wash or Lysol to get high. Take that away they will mix legal non-prescription over the counter drugs to get high or sniff paint thinner or nail polish. Take all these things away they will turn to sex, gambling, overeating or under-eating, work, excitement, running, exercise or you name it because the list can go on & on including religious addiction or the Jerry Springer Show.
Addicts are going to use something
( people, places, thoughts, situations or things) to get high or mood alter themselves no matter what anyone does or does not do including The United States Government or what is legal or not legal or what they can afford or not afford to buy. People addicted to nicotine are paying outrageous prices for cigarettes to prove that point & illegal drug dealers are driving very nice cars & so are Doctors who operate pain clinics which could best be described as perfectly legal drug dealerships that legally supply many addicts with legal doctor prescribed pain killers at their request claiming they are in excruciating pain. These are the places where you will see people lined up to get their pain medication. Addicts know how to find these places & they also know how to con a doctor into prescribing them pain killers.Most addicts have multiple addictions & when they stop one addiction it is common for them to start acting out in another one or new one such as sex & love addiction, work, gambling, overeating, food, sugar, caffeine, nicotine, anorexia, etc. Very few addicts have only one addiction which magnifies their problem & hampers total recovery.
That is why flybenji does not believe drugs or alcohol is the problem or ever will be. Addiction is the culprit & that is where the effort & understanding must be directed if our government really wants to solve the so called drug problem in America which in reality is an addiction problem. The War On Drugs needs to become
The War On Addiction or The War On Dysfunctional Families if progress is ever to be made.Flybenji believes addicts are born that way & the disease or illness or if you prefer
addictive personality disorder (APD) which sounds much better is definitely a genetic brain disease, disorder or illness (take your pick) & flybenji believes it is a brain chemistry abnormality or disorder of the most complex thing on this earth “The human brain!” which becomes improperly programmed at a very early age by caretakers that come from dysfunctional families that are fear or shame based & they unintentionally abuse their children & their children then become their own doctors & prescribe their own medications (drugs of choice) to lesson their pain or augment their pleasure as a way or means of surviving their abuse or making it better or in a sense resolve it. What the addict is actually doing is re-abusing themselves. Addiction is full of paradoxes that make no sense at all to non-addicted people. That is why it takes one to know one & truly understand addiction & what causes it.Flybenji does not believe that people can make themselves addicts by choosing to use drugs or alcohol excessively or anything else.
Other people do, flybenji does not.
Flybenji believes a person must be born with the disease addictive personality disorder (APD)
(inherit the unknown or unidentified gene) to become hopelessly addicted to anything.He believes it is a genetic family illness that runs in certain families & children born with the disposition are the ones that become hopelessly addicted to whatever their drug or drugs of choice turn out to be which can be almost anything called bottom line compulsive addictive behaviors.
He knows to many people that chose to use drugs or alcohol excessively by choice to medicate pain or augment pleasure due to immaturity, peer pressure, anxiety or depression & simply chose to quit to avoid suffering anymore or possible adverse consequences. They did not become hopelessly hooked against their will.
People afflicted with addiction can not do that as simple as it sounds.
That is what sets them apart from normal people.
They are very unfortunate in this respect & the fact that the vast majority of addicts come from dysfunctional families at no fault of their own.
Take what you like & leave the rest.
Flybenji is not getting paid & he is not writing any books so he has nothing to push or sell & his website is free to anyone who cares to click on it.
He has a lot of hands on experience dealing with addiction & addicts & is simply putting things the way he
sees them.No one on earth knows anymore about addiction than flybenji so his opinion is just as good as any of the others until absolute proof is found for or against.
HPV virus has now been found that causes throat cancer & for years everyone thought smoking or drinking caused it
Medical Evidence.Addiction is the same at this time.
Absolute cause unknown.
Until medical science is able to identify the gene that causes human beings to be addicts if there is one the debate & argument will continue which does not solve the problem of addiction or help unfortunate people that are afflicted.
Irregardless of what really causes an addiction to take over control of a human beings mind & life & causes them to experience impaired thinking & abnormal self-abusive & self-destructive behaviors people that have addicts in their life know what addicts are & what they do.
They act out in their addictions & no one has the power to convince them that they have a problem or they need to get help for themselves.
Addicts do not think they have a problem & think they can control their compulsive addictive behaviors with their own will power & also think they that can stop or quit anytime they want to & it matters not to them what other people say, think or do.
This is called denial, delusion & dissociation it is very powerful over addicts even under the worst of conditions & circumstances.
The
paradox in recovery for addiction is simple.An addict will never get out of an addiction until they choose to become brutally honest & admit that they have a problem with addiction & they must admit & accept their limitations. They must accept that they are not like normal non-addicted people & never will be. They must also admit & understand that they can not control their addiction with their own willpower & they will need help from others which is the exact opposite of what they actually think living in denial & delusion & dissociation. They must get it that their addiction is not something to fix or control but something they have to learn to live with & do whatever is necessary for them to stay abstinent & sober in order for them to experience & live a more normal life. An addict has to do things that normal people do not have to do if they really want to stop acting out in their addiction(s) & become abstinent & sober & stop suffering the painful life damaging consequences that hurt not only them but other people that love & care about them.
This is the message that needs to be carried & education is the key to that.
Other words America needs to teach children what addicts are, what they do & what to do if they ever become addicted to anything & forget all the what caused it stuff & whether it is a brain disease or illness or not or whether a person can make themselves into an addict or not simply by choosing to drink alcohol or use drugs. Just say no may work on non-addicted children but it has no power over children afflicted with addiction.
The important thing is to acknowledge that addiction is real & a major problem in America &
many of America’s unfortunate children that come from dysfunctional families through no fault of their own will become addicted to something in the future to cope with their misfortune so they need to get all the education they can if they ever want to get out of their addictions once they take over control of their lives against their own will & try to destroy them. Addiction wants to kill addicts & it wants to see them dead.That is no joke & it is no small thing.
Not if it is your child or a member of your family or your community.It is a matter of life & death. Addiction is a threat to America’s children & it has damaged &
killed millions of them in the past. It will continue to do so if left unchecked politically.We urge you to contact your civic leaders & ask them to declare
War On Addiction & Dysfunctional Families & the crime, violence & destruction that runs with it.Addiction & dysfunctional family education is the key to getting people that will someday become afflicted help & recovery on a individual basis one addict at a time is the only thing that will ever solve the drug problem in America.
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