If think you are an
addict (you can not stop or quit acting out in your own self-identified compulsive addictive bottom line behaviors that are causing you & other people problems under your own willpower no matter how hard you try or how many different times you have resolved to stop or quit permanently) flybenji urges you to think about & consider reaching out for help & get yourself into a program of recovery as soon as possible because your addiction wants to destroy you & your life & see you dead.Your
addiction (addict) could care less about you!If you do not believe that ask the family, friends & loved ones of
Benjamen Hugo Dice.Addiction got him killed in a heartbeat & it will kill you to if you underestimate it’s power over you & give it the chance by trying to minimize how serious of a problem it really is.
Addiction destroys lives, relationships, families, people, careers & it has also prematurely
killed millions of people in America in the past.Brutal
Honesty Is Addiction’s Worst Enemy!All you have to do is go to a
twelve step meeting, counselor, therapist, treatment center or religious based recovery program & tell them that you think you are an addict, that you can not stop using, drinking or acting out in your addiction & you want & need help.We know that your
pride, guilt, shame & fear will make that very difficult for you to do but you have to march right through that & just do it anyway if you ever want to get out of your addiction & stop suffering the painful consequences of your addiction.There is no softer or easier way.
Many recovering people will go out of their way to help you if you want help & they could care less who you are or what you have done in the past to hurt yourself or others.
They will not judge or criticize you as they understand that you are a very unfortunate person just like they are.
A person afflicted with addiction at no fault of their own.
They will welcome you with open arms.
They will go out of their way to teach you all about addiction & how it works to destroy addicts.
Helping others recover by sharing their stories, experience, strength & hope is an important part of their own recovery program.
They will teach you & educate you about what you need to do to become abstinent & sober from all of your compulsive addictive bottom line acting out behaviors whatever they may be:
Alcohol
Drugs
Sex
Love
Romance
Relationships
Overeating
Gambling
Work
Or Co-Dependency If You Are The Family Member, Friend Or Loved One Of Any Type Of Addict.
Addiction Is A Very Serious Mental Disorder &
Co-Dependency Is Also A Serious Problem For The Family Members, Friends & Loved Ones Of Addicts.Recovery for addiction or co-dependency is not an event.
It must come about in three separate areas to be totally successful.
1.
Spiritually2.
Emotionally3.
PhysicallyIt is a very difficult & long drawn out trying process for all people afflicted & it takes a long time for everyone who chooses recovery to change themselves.
It also takes a commitment on your part to stay with recovery & stick with it as long as it takes which for some can seem to be forever.
It takes most people 3 to 5 years to even begin to recover from any type of addiction or co-dependency issues which proves how powerful addiction & co-dependency really is & how these life damaging problems have the power to cause impaired thinking to the extreme even under the worst of conditions & circumstances.
Many addicts also have multiple addictions that they are not even aware of in early recovery due to denial, delusion & dissociation which simply makes full recovery in a short period of time practically impossible.
Many co-dependents also have other problems or even addictions themselves they are simply not aware of in early recovery due to their own denial, delusion & dissociation that also prolongs & hampers their recovery.
Make No Mistake About It!
Recovery for addiction or co-dependency will be the most difficult & trying thing anyone afflicted will ever choose to do in this lifetime!
It is not easy!
But It Is A Hell Of A Lot Better Than Living In Constant Fear, Anxiety, Turmoil, Frustration, Confusion, Emotional Pain Or Being Stone Cold
Dead Like Benjamen Hugo Dice!All Benji Had To Do Was Get Dumb Real Fast & Choose To Reach Out For Help & He Would Probably Still Be Alive Today!
He Was Simply To Smart & Had To Much Personal
Pride & To Many Cover-Ups For His Own Good!All Addicts Have A Serious Character Defect In That They Simply Do Not Like Other People Trying To Tell Them What To Do & They Especially Do Not Like Being Told They Have A Problem With Addiction.
Do Yourself A Favor & Learn By His Serious Mistakes & Misfortune!
His
Addictive Behavior Was His Worst Enemy!Many People Including Judges, Police Officers, Recovering People & Family Members Tried To Help Benji & He Simply Could Not Hear Because His Addiction & Caused Him To Experience Impaired Thinking To The Extreme. He Refused To Listen To Or Co-Operate With People That Chose To Care About Him.
His Addiction Slowly But Surely Took Over His Mind & His Life & Got Him Killed Prematurely At The Age Of Thirty.
Benjamen Was Born Into A
Dysfunctional Family With A Long History Of Addiction & Alcoholism On Both Sides At No Fault Of His Own.He Was Not The First Family Member To Die From The Disease Of Addiction & He Probably Will Not Be The Last.
I Am Benji’s Father & I Own My Part In It!
My Own Denial & Delusion & Dissociation About My Own Addictions, Co-Dependency & Other Dysfunctional Behaviors Played A Part In My Son’s Addiction.
I Simply Was Not Always A Good Competent Parent & Did Not Always Give My Children A Good Example To Follow As I Was Unknowingly Living In Denial & Delusion & Dissociation Myself For Many Years.
My Lights Were On But No One Was At Home.
I Was Living In A World Of My Own.
Dissociated & Cut Off From Feelings Much Of The Time.
I Did The Best I Could Under The Circumstances With What I Knew, Experienced & Had Been Taught By My Caretakers But It Simply Was Not Good Enough.
I Was Simply A Severely Dysfunctional Person & Especially So When It Came To Relationships Or Relating To Others In A Healthy Way.
Irregardless I Did Not Cause His Addiction.
I Could Not Cure It.
I Could Not Control It.
All I Could Do When I Realized Something Was Terribly Wrong In My Family Of Origin Was Take An Honest Look At Myself & Get Into A Program Of Recovery & Choose To Change The Things About Myself That Needed To Be Changed So I Could Be Free Of My Own Dysfunctional & Compulsive Addictive Behaviors & The Painful Consequences I & Innocent Others Had To Suffer & Endure As A Direct Result Of Them.
Hundreds Of People Unselfishly Helped Me Understand What My Problems Were & What I Needed To Do To Overcome Them By Sharing Their Own Experience, Strength & Hope With Me.
It Takes One To Know One & That Is The Only Reason I Can Be Of Help To People Afflicted With Addiction Or Co-Dependency In My Own Unorthodox Way.
I Learned Everything Set Out In This Website From Other People In Twelve Step & Religious Recovery Programs & Without Their Help I Could Have Never Done This For Lack Of Education & Knowledge (Ignorance).
You Have Done Nothing To Hurt Yourself Or Others Emotionally, Spiritually Or Physically That I Myself Have Not Done & That Goes For Addicts & Co-Dependents Alike.
When One Person Experiencing Addiction Or Co-Dependency Issues Hits Bottom (has had enough pain & suffering) & Reaches Out For Help From Another Person In Recovery For Addiction Or Co-Dependency The Miracle Of Recovery Begins.
I Hope You Choose To Walk Through That Door For The First Time & Ask For Help Just Like I Did.
You Will Not Be Disappointed & Your Life Will Start Changing For The Better Immediately If You Want It To.
The Only Word I Have For Recovery Is Relief!
No Pain No Gain!
You Can Not Heal It If You Can Not Feel it!
I Stood At My Son’s Coffin & I Promised Him He Had Not Died In Vain.
I Promised Him I Would Use His Violent, Morbid, Gruesome, Needless & Senseless Death To Help Others Who Still Suffer.
I Loved My Son & He Loved Me.
I Keep My Commitments.
I Hope That We Have Helped You & Members Of Your Family So They May Be Spared Our Fate!
The Premature Loss Of A Loved One To The Horrible Disease Of Addiction!
If No One Told You That They Love You Today?
I Do!
& So Does
flybenji& All Of His Friends In Recovery!