The Four ( 4 ) Don'ts help people to stop the destructive practice of enabling addicts.

    1. Don't do anything for an alcoholic or addict that you do not want to do.

    2. Don't do anything for an alcoholic or addict that they could do for themselves.

    3. Don't do anything for an alcoholic or addict that you are not asked to do.

    4. Don't do anything for an alcoholic or addict if you are feeling sorry for them.

    5. A 5th don't is now under consideration:
    Don't allow an active untreated alcoholic or addict to live in your home with you under any circumstances ( It's Your  Choice  ).
    You did not cause it, you can not control it & you can not cure it ( The Three C's ) ( Al-Anon )
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" If no one told you they care about you today we do."
Hush I pray you! What if this friend happen to be-God? God teaches us to help each other so, Lending our minds out ( Browning ).
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    If you can not help an active untreated alcoholic, drug addict or other type of addict up,
    the only other choice you have is to do everything you possibly can to help them down.
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    Recovering codependents personal pledge to finally stop enabling:

    Tough Love  now rules all of my choices & important decisions I personally have to make concerning
    people in my life who are active untreated alcoholics, drug addicts or other types of addicts.

    Therefore:

    I will not do anything for an alcoholic or addict that they could do for themselves.

    I will not do anything for an alcoholic or addict that I really do not want to do.

    I will not do anything for an alcoholic or addict that I am not asked to do.

    I will not do anything for an alcoholic or addict if I am feeling sorry for them.

    Mantra: ( Get Clean & Sober Or Get Out )

    I understand it is often times more valuable to leave a friendship or relationship than to have to watch
    someone who you love & care about destroy themselves & their lives with compulsive addictive disease.

    Therefore Furthermore:

    I will not allow myself or my dependents to live in a home with active untreated alcoholics or addicts of any type.


    If that is not possible I will immediately find another place for me & my dependents to move to & live.

    I will take care of myself & support myself & my dependents financially.

    Whatever it takes I will find a way.

    Active untreated alcoholism or addiction is simply not okay.

    Not with me.

    Why?

    I am a grown up person.

    A responsible adult

    I understand that addiction is often times  Fatal  & enabling an addict could help them to experience premature   Death  .
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