| Childhood Abuse Causes Sex, Love, Romance Addiction & Co-Sex Addiction In Men & Women |
Childhood abuse in a major cause of sex, love, romance addiction or co-sex addiction in men & women. Many victims do not remember, recollect or recall being abused as children even though they are acting out in various addictions or codependent relationship behavior which is a clear signpost of past life abuse. This failure to acknowledge & deal with what is true ( reality ) is called denial & delusion ( defense mechanisms ). Personally I suffered many childhood abuse events as a very young child through no fault of my own. I was in my early fifties before I came out of denial & delusion & decided to reach out for help. By that time I had lost everything I had ever worked for. A marriage, a family, a home & a business. My mother had mental problems & would get into relationships with men who had drinking or other problems. Two of my step fathers were alcoholics & one was twice her age. She had five children by four different fathers & two of us were born out of wedlock. Three of us have never had any personal contact with our fathers whatsoever. When I was very young my mother had two illegitimate children to take care of with no husband to support her or us financially so she had to leave us with baby sitters when she went to her place of work. When I was one year old a couple that my mother, my 3 year old sister & myself had moved in with beat me with a beat buckle while she was away at work until my body was covered with black & blue welts. When my mother got home & saw my condition she called the police & turned them in. When the male found out about that he tried to break into our bedroom & rape her.
He was stopped by police & arrested. The police discovered a seven year old boy that they had kept chained up in their basement totally nude.
They were prosecuted & sent off to prison for child abuse & their children were put into foster homes. At age three another baby sitter raged on me, beat on me & crammed eggs down my throat. When I gagged & vomited she forced me eat my own puke. When I was four I was severely beaten by a man for playing with matches & catching his truck on fire. When I was eight years old I was hit by a car & suffered severe injuries that required multiple Surgeries. When I was around eleven or twelve years old I was befriended, sexually molested & forcibly raped by a male neighbor. I spent the better part of my childhood trying to avoid going home after school. I would run the streets with other kids who suffered similar types of family of origin problems. I married a woman who always had a drink in her hand. Our children ended up having alcohol & drug problems. After my wife abandoned me I would get myself into relationships with some women who were past life sexual abuse, rape, molestation or incest victims.
I would allow them to use me & emotionally abuse me as a part of my own unconscious reenactment episodes. I could not leave them due to my morbid fear of abandonment which was very powerful over me. This happened to me over & over again. I simply lacked the capacity to say no. I was virtually powerless.
They would try to string me along, keep me on the hook & make me a part of their stash.
I was hooked. The emotional pain eventually became so unbearable I simply could not take it anymore.
I began to realize that. I started to really feel the excruciating & debilitating emotional & physical pain associated with abandonment.
He used the words horrible. Totally numbed out is the only words I will ever have for it. I was simply gone all those years. My many addictions had served their purpose ( to block out the pain of my childhood abuse & abandonment issues ). Lucky for me, several years later I met another troubled man ( typical of me ) one night at a 12 step meeting for the adult children of alcoholics & he told me about a 12 step meeting for sex, love & romance addiction. I went to my very first meeting shortly thereafter. I never ran into that troubled man ever again to thank him. After all those years I had no idea that I was a sex, love, romance addict, co-sex addict & avoidance addict. I have been in recovery for many years now ( Only By The Grace Of God ) ( that troubled man? ). I now own my part in all of my past life personal problems & dysfunctional relationship behaviors.
I hope these web pages on sex, love & romance addiction & co-sex addiction will help you better understand these types of personal problems & what you can or can not do about them. If you suffered any type of abuse as a child through no fault of your own & somehow at some point in time you became addicted to sex, love or romance or became co-sexually addicted as a result thereof, I urge you to come out of hiding & reach out for help just like I did.
Very kind & generous recovering sex, love, romance addicts & co-sex addicts will welcome you with open arms & help you to overcome your difficulties. They did that for someone like me & they will also do that for you.
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| Hush I pray you! What if this friend happen to be-God? God teaches us to help each other so, Lending our minds out ( Browning ). |
| All Human Beings & Society In General Will Always Stay As Sick As Their Closely Guarded Family Secrets |
| Abuse is never the Child's fault |